Been a Son

Written in 1989, "Been a Son" was first recorded in the studio in September 1989 by Steve Fisk at Music Source in Seattle, Washington. Of the five songs recorded, only two were officially released, with both "Been a Son" and "Stain" appearing on the Blew EP in December 1989. The session was Nirvana's first time recording on two inch, 24 track tape, and Fisk recalls that "when it was all over with, we played 'Been a Son' really loud on the big stupid speakers three times and stood up on the client tables in the back room and danced."[3]

"Been a Son" was first performed live on October 8, 1989 at the Lif Ticket Lounge in Omaha, Nebraska, the show at which Nirvana also debuted the future Nevermind song, "Breed", which was then called "Immodium". On September 25, 1990, Cobain performed a solo acoustic version of the song on the Boy Meets Girl show, hosted by Beat Happening vocalist and guitarist Calvin Johnson, on KAOS (FM) in Olympia, Washington.

A second studio version of "Been a Son" was recorded for the BBC program The Evening Session by Miti Adhikari, at Maida Vale Studios in London, England on November 9, 1991. It was released on Incesticide in December 1992.

"Been a Son" was rehearsed for Nirvana's MTV Unplugged appearance in November 1993, but cut from the set list prior to the show.[4]

The Fisk-recorded version of "Been a Son" was re-released on the band's first greatest hits album, Nirvana, in October 2002. Prior to this, this version had only been commercially-available on the Blew EP,[5] which had only been released in the United Kingdom and in limited numbers. Kurt St. Thomas called this version the definitive take, because it better displayed Nirvana's signature thrashing guitar sound and featured a bass guitar solo prominent in the mix.[6]

"Been a Son" represents one of Cobain's earliest commentaries on the issues of sex and gender.[7] In his 1993 biography Come As You Are: The Story of Nirvana, Michael Azerrad described "the instantly catchy" song as being about "the plight of a girl whose parents would have preferred a boy."[7] Jenn Pelly of Pitchfork described it as "a comment on how patriarchy sees women as second-class citizens, on how it dictates what it thinks women should be."[8]

"Been a Son" has been cited as one of the earliest examples of Nirvana's more melodic direction following the release of their 1989 debut album, Bleach. As author Chuck Crisafulli noted, Cobain suppressed his pop influences during the band's earliest years, but after the release of Bleach, he became more outspoken and confident about professing his love of John Lennon and the Beatles during interviews.[7] Fisk, who produced the first version of the song, said that the recording featured "Total Lennon harmonies, right out of Rubber Soul".[9] Azerrad wrote that Cobain's vocals were "draped in most un-Sub Pop-like harmonies", a reference to Nirvana's then-record label, best known for their heavier grunge sound that defined most of Bleach, with the exception of "About a Girl".[9] English musician Tim Arnold described the song as part of Nirvana's post-Bleach "political thrust to the top of the charts."[10]

In his review of Incesticide for AllMusic, Stephen Thomas Erlewine cited "the terrific forgotten indie pop tune 'Been a Son'" as one of the compilation's highlights.[11]

In 2015, Rolling Stone named "Been a Son" the 23rd best Nirvana song in their No Apologies: All 102 Nirvana Songs Ranked list.[12] In 2019, The Guardian ranked it at number 11 on their list of Nirvana's 20 greatest songs.[13]

• A demo version, featuring Cobain on vocals, guitar and bass, was released on Montage of Heck: The Home Recordings in November 2015. It was recorded in 1988 or 1989.

• A live version, recorded at the Pine Street Theatre in Portland, Oregon on February 9, 1990, appeared on the 20th anniversary "Deluxe" edition of Bleach, which was released in November 2009 and featured the full Pine Street show as bonus material.

• The solo acoustic version recorded at KAOS (FM) on September 25, 1990 appeared on the Nirvana box set, With the Lights Out, in November 2004.

• A live version, recorded at the Paramount Theatre on October 31, 1991, was released as a b-side in July 1992 on the third single from Nevermind, for the song, "Lithium." The full Paramount show was released on DVD and Blu-Ray in November 2009 as Live at the Paramount.

• A live version, recorded at the Paradiso in Amsterdam, the Netherlands on November 25, 1991, appeared on the live compilation From the Muddy Banks of the Wishkah in November 1996. Footage of this version was released on the bonus disc of the live video Live! Tonight! Sold Out!! in November 2006, when it was first released on DVD. The full Paradiso show was released on CD and Blu-Ray in November 2021 on the 30th anniversary "Super Deluxe" version of Nevermind.

• The 30th anniversary "Super Deluxe" release of Nevermind also included the band's full show at the Nakano Sunplaza in Tokyo, Japan on February 19, 1992, which featured a version of "Been a Son."

• A live version, from the band's headlining set at the 1992 Reading Festival in Reading, England on August 30, 1992, appeared on the CD and DVD release Live at Reading in November 2009.